I don't mind complimenting or being complimented.... unless of course you hear the story of how the owner of Vito's was repeatedly hitting on my a few days ago (ick yuck).

People are going to say what they want to say... freedom of speech and all. The point of view that I'm imagining it from though is....

Since I think Gavin is hot and every few weeks I remind him that he should get some head shots done and try for some modeling (who wants to lay brick forever??) I have to put it into the view point of trusting my spouse... More than a few people (and several girls at the bank) have commented on how he looks like a certain movie star... and you know if they are saying that it's not b/c he looks like Forest Gump... it's b/c he's quit good looking.... (he'll gag if he reads this post).

But I've never felt threatened by that. Now if there was some girl hanging all over him and drooling at his every word (we won't say her name) then I get in the mood for a cat fight. But not because I don't trust Gavin... just because I'm defending my territory!

So I can understand Bran being made uncomfortable by Brian's comment... but then if I actually looked good and gave Brian a reason to say that about me then I would say "thanks" to his comment and Gavin and I would probably both laugh about it.

It's not like Brian called Beth or sent her a PM... he openly made the comment in front of everyone.

You can't control other people's motives. You can only trust that your spouse won't let it go to their head.

I think that's my opinion.

I'm sure Gavin is gonna love this conversation...lol

I 1000% agree with Jess on this.
I believe it completely falls back on trust. If a complament or comment or any other thing is said in an open area and is not hidden, then you have to trust that you or your spouce will take it with a grain of salt. If someone went out of the way to make the comment hidding, trying to say it so their spouce wouldn't find out, thats another story.

I like he hear good things about me, just like the next person. You tend to get more compliments if you give them yourself.

Besides its very simple... if you don't like something, ask the person nicely to not do it again, if they do it again them being conserned is warrented.

P.S. High five Jess, we found something we agree on... you go girl.

Here is a twist.
If a person from the same gender give your spouce a nice comment about their looks would you still be offended or conserned?

WoW Gav, you have some nice looking legs there buddie.

Do you take it in the same way, or do you take it as a joke? If you take it as a joke, then why? If you think its because you know I'm not Gay and in no way would I ever do anything about it.
So what is different then If I said: WoW Jess, you have some nice looking legs.
You know I'm married and in no way would I ever do anything about it. SO I ask, does it make a different?

In my opinion I think alot of it falls on how well you know a person. I take comments alot different from a person that I don't know, then a person that is family or is a good friend.

Good topic so far BTW.

Yep I do, If the comment isn't to specific then I don't think there is a problem making it once. If the person keeps making it there I could see a reason to be concerned. I think its important to tell the people you care for how you feel about them.

But now that I know it upsets/offends, I won't make anymore.

Hmmm, now I have more complaments to give to others... Look out Jess, your getting Beths share from now on.

I think i maybe handled this all wrong.
I saw the comment and knew immediately that Brandon wouldn't like it no matter how it was meant. I should have pmed you about it instead of letting it go.

On the bright side, i'm really getting up there in my Posts count! LOLOL

I think you let it go, cause you know I was just trying to be nice, nothing else.

Needless to say, this has been the most anyone has posted in months.

By the way, Brandon just wants me to say that he just felt it was an inappropriate thing to say.